Choices

I have written posts and not published them a lot going on right now and of course I am the one that is wrong. Yeah right !!! Let's clear up something I have 3 children not 2. Each of my children deserve the same treatment and respect. My oldest is the first boy child of the next generation to carry on the Cataldo family name. My daughter was the first girl Cataldo born in like 60 years but you know if she gets married she might probably change her name to that of her spouse and she won't be Cataldo anymore. My youngest was the second boy child of the next generation of Cataldo's. I don't know, well I really have lost count of how many times I have been told "you had the perfect gentleman's family a boy and a girl". I love how they say "had". Oh yes that's right I chose to have Finnian. Well a hand higher than this earth decided that we needed to be this child's parents. Its not the life we would chose its the life that was chosen for us. Do you think I like that I have to pump him full of medications to give him his normal? Do you think I like that I have to depend on MY FAMILY and MY FRIENDS to be there for my other children? Do you think I love going to like 20 different doctors? Do you think I like that the security guards at the hospital knows my child by his first name? Do you think I like fighting with my insurance to get things covered? Do you think I like that I have to fight for his right to have an Education in the proper setting for his needs? I do it all because he is an innocent child, my child, my son. They say that acceptance is the greatest disability than a disability its self and I do believe that is true. They always say "don't judge a book by its cover" and its true. I cannot tell you or teach you on how not to judge or how to accept Finnian you have to figure it out on your own. But you will not ignore him and pretend he is not there. He is very much a part of our lives and yes we do have a different life to others but he is who he is supposed to be and we cannot change that. He is not a burden he is like my other 2 children a gift but a gift that came packaged a little differently. We have come to a part in our lives were people have to chose but you will not divide my family. So the ball is in your court its your choice are you going to follow us on our journey and accept our "normal" or are you going to walk the straight path and walk away from my 3 children? That's all I am going to say now its your choice